1861
Lecture VII
Tender-Heartedness- No. 3
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Text.--Eph. 4: 32: "Be ye tender-hearted."
In speaking from these words I inquire,
I. What it is to be tender-hearted.
II. The effects and manifestations of tender-heartedness.
I. What it is to be tender-hearted.
In my last I said that hard-heartedness was stubbornness; that it consisted in the
committed state of the will against the claims of God; was a selfish, unsubdued will.
Tender-heartedness is the opposite of this. It is the will committed to the claims
of God, in the attitude of obedience to God, of submission to Him. It is, in short,
benevolence; a state of mind adjusted in the will of God; a state that accepts His
whole will, and commits the whole mind to obedience.
II. I notice the effects and manifestations of this tender-heartedness.
A tender heart will always use the intellect in a candid manner; it will weigh evidence, and be careful to do nobody any injustice in judgment; it will weigh the claims of God, and the claims of a neighbor. Hence,
The mind, yielding as air, is easily convinced of error; and when convinced, spontaneously retracts. The opposite of this is true in hardness of heart. The mind is uncandid, hard to be convinced, and not ready to retract even then.
It is disposed to judge charitably, and to avoid all prejudice. It regards prejudice as a great injustice; and if prejudices have been entertained, this state of mind will instantly yield them, and yield them joyfully, as soon as evidence can be obtained to show that there is prejudice.
As I have just said, the state of heart of which we are speaking, is that of love to God and man; consequently the mind in this state will judge kindly and hopefully of everybody so far as it honestly can.
When the heart is tender, the conscience is very susceptible, easily excited to activity, and readily makes its impression on the sensibility. You will find persons in this state exceedingly sensitive of the presence of any sin. Its perceptions of moral distinctions are very delicate; and its decisions are very emphatic, and often tremendously severe. I have known persons to have so much tenderness of heart as to receive impressions that were almost unendurable.
Sin consists in a state of mind that does not care for God or man; but cares really only for self and for those that are regarded as parts of self.
It is a state that refuses to will the good of God and of being in general; and does not really concern itself for any interests but its own. Now a tender heart can appreciate the great wickedness of this contempt of the interests of others; this reckless disregard of God and man.
To have neglected God appears to a tender heart to be a great and awful sin.
To have cared nothing for His rights, or interests, or glory, appears to a tender heart to be a sin well-worthy of damnation.
To have wronged God is an inexpressibly terrible thing to a tender heart.
A tender heart is a loving heart. A loving heart throws the sensibility open to be deeply moved by a sense of the intrinsic guilt of sin against God. The fountains of the great deep of the sensibility are easily broken up, and sorrows easily gush and flow where the will has yielded the whole controversy and taken its proper attitude. If the will has given scope to the feelings, and has let in upon the sensibility the real facts as they are in all their freshness, the sorrows will gush like a fountain.
It throws the sensibility open to be affected by a sense of this love and compassion. It throws open the windows of the mind to let in the light of God's compassion, its warmth and its influence. In this state the soul will not complain that it cannot realize the love and compassion of God.
This looks dreamy to a hard heart; but to a tender heart it is reality. The love of Christ in dying for the soul, is an overwhelming consideration to a tender heart.
I can conceive that a daughter might become so hardened toward her mother, so disobedient and unsubdued, as to do that which would cost her mother her life; and yet be unable either to appreciate her own sin, or the great love of her mother in giving up her life for her daughter.
But on the other hand, I can conceive a daughter so subdued, that, if she had done that which had cost her mother her life, she would feel as if she never could forgive herself; never could think of it without a flood of tears; never could speak of it without breaking down with sorrow.
If her heart were tender, the very thought of what she had done, and what love and compassion the suffering mother had for her, would carry her away in a flood of weeping. Thus it is in respect to Christ. When the heart is tender, the whole mind is easily affected, greatly subdued, and humbled unspeakably low, in view of those sins that crucified Christ, that love that bore our sins in His own body on the tree.
To such a mind it is no trial to confess, but rather a luxury. Confession will not be guarded and half-hearted; but such a soul will make a clean breast of it, and confess the whole, and will not stop short of finding full relief.
It will not, as a general thing assert at once its own consciousness of innocence; but, if there be any doubt, will take the matter into consideration, look narrowly into all the motives, weigh every circumstance with great candor, and will after all often come to the conclusion that Paul did when he said, " I will not judge mine own self."
Or at any rate, if it cannot see its wrong, it will say, " I leave it to the judgment of God. I may be wrong, though I am not conscious of it. Still, I will not be too positive; God may see that I am in the wrong."
But again,
It is curious to see that where brethren in the hardness of their hearts have each held the other to be in the wrong; as soon as their hearts become tender, each one insists that he is almost, if not altogether, in the wrong. He thinks himself greatly more to blame than his brother; and often so much so, that he frequently thinks that his brother would not have been in the blame at all if it had not been for his own wrong. I have seen many instances of this -- that as soon as the hearts of the people become tender, every one could see his own wrong much more plainly than he could his brother's.
And a self-accusing spirit, rather than a self-justifying spirit, is manifest throughout the whole circle of the tender-hearted.
In speaking the other day to a sister in the church, whose heart has recently became tender, I said to her that I was trying to get time to call upon her. She replied, tearfully, " How can you think of calling upon me? I am not worthy that anybody should take any notice of me." As I was speaking to a brother but a few days since, he made this remark: "I am not worthy to be on the face of the earth -- I am not fit to live in human society -- I am a loathing to myself -- I have no right to live, I have been so vile."
And yet neither of these persons have been guilty, to my knowledge, of any conduct that in the sight of men would have been regarded as disgraceful. But this is the natural tendency of a tender heart when fully convinced by the Spirit of God.
In another case, a sister said to me, "I never saw myself as I have today. I am so hateful, I do not think it would be right in God to forgive me. Really, I do not want to be forgiven -- I feel as if God's honor so demanded that I should be punished." And this she said with many tears, and in a tone and with a manner so subdued as to be very touching. How opposite all this to hardness of heart!
The tender-hearted are slow to believe evil of any one, either friends or foes.
Indeed, a tender-hearted soul has no foes, in the sense of his having any enmity toward any one. It loves all; it can pray for all; it is disposed to think well of all; and it is always grieved when compelled to believe evil of any one.
Hard-heartedness is the opposite of this. It manifests a readiness to believe evil, to judge harshly and censoriously; it is ready to retain resentful feelings; it forgives ungraciously and superficially, and after all, retains resentful feelings. But not so with tender-heartedness.
Tender-heartedness is grieved to be obliged to think evil of others; and dismisses all such thoughts, and all such judgments, and all such things, from the mind as soon as possible.
In manner, and tone of voice, and gesture, and look, it will be kind, compassionate, benevolent.
This Jesus did; this His followers do; this is natural as its breath to a tender-hearted mind. It does not come hard for the tender-hearted to deny themselves, to make sacrifices for the good of others. In them it is spontaneous; it is an outburst of a state of mind; it is the natural development of a Christian spirit within them.
You will find that such persons are always willing to do all they can for God and souls; and indeed, they are greatly desirous of doing a great deal more good than they can. Their hearts are often too large for their means. When they have done all they can, it seems to them that they have done little; and their grief is that they cannot do more. They will cry out within, " O, for an ocean of means to meet the necessities of all the children of want!"
They are not easily offended; they are not jealous, and critical, and ready to make another an offender for a word. They are ready to make apologies for those who in anywise appear either to neglect them or to encroach upon their rights.
In them there is nothing of affectation; for they feel so deeply that no affectation is necessary, and there is no temptation to any such thing. There is no cant about them, no effort to get up an appearance of feeling; but it requires a great deal more effort to suppress the too audible manifestation of it. There is everything in religious truth to make the soul feel, to excite it in the very highest degree. When the heart is hard this is not realized, the truth is not seen; but when the eye is single, the whole body is full of light. When the heart is tender, then truth has a tremendous bearing on the sensibility. It moves it in all its depths and manifestations; and it sometimes requires not a little effort to suppress even the boisterous manifestations of feeling. I have often, myself, when my heart was thoroughly subdued, felt it difficult to avoid screaming in view of the state of sinners, or shouting in view of the love of God. In this state of mind the will is yielded up to truth; and consequently the feelings, having full scope, are very liable to boil over.
But of course there is a good deal of difference in different temperaments, in respect to the extent to which the feelings will be excited when the heart is tender. But as all men have sensibility, all men can feel when the appropriate conditions are fulfilled; and when the heart is tender, there is generally a very great susceptibility to feeling in every mind.
Men are very apt to apologize for the want of feeling, by saying, that they are of such a temperament that they cannot expect to feel. I have heard much of this; and often have I seen these same persons, when thoroughly subdued to God, as full of feeling as they could hold.
Persons in this state of mind will not go over with a cold statement of their own wants, and confine their prayers to themselves and a few friends; but the yearnings of such a mind will pour themselves out in mighty prayer for those that are perishing.
REMARKS.
1. How differently does everything appear in this state from what it does in a state
of hardness of heart. Religion, the world, our neighbors, our sins, the conduct of
everybody else -- all, all appear so changed as soon as the heart is softened.
The change is indeed wonderful, in passing from a state of hardness to a state of
tenderness of heart. It seems almost as if we had changed worlds. Everything is seen
in so different a light; everything makes so different an impression upon us! Life
is altogether a different affair -- and so is death.
2. When the heart is softened there is a great readiness to correct any mistakes
that were made while the heart was hard. Even bargains that were made in hardness
of heart, and without any misgiving, at the time, as to their being truly honest,
will be seen, often, when the heart is tender, to have been oppressive and selfish;
and the mind will not willingly let them rest without proposing to set the matter
right.
A hard-hearted man buys a poor man's cow. The poor man needs to sell her, and he
buys her for a little less than what she is worth. When his heart becomes tender
and he thinks of the poor man's cow, he will be very apt not to rest till he pays
the full value of her. I have known many striking instances like this.
3. A tender heart always brings great peace to the soul.
While the heart is hard, the mind is restive under the government of God; and in
human society the will is too stiff. The hard-hearted man elbows his way in human
society, and chafes under the government of God. But as soon as his heart is tender
and subdued, he quiets himself like a weaned child under the government of God. He
bows himself to the providence of God; he feels his way carefully and kindly among
mankind; he walks in peace with God, and so far as in him lies with all men.
4. It is easy to deal with tender hearted people. They are fair-minded, honorable,
and will take no advantage. In dealing with them you need not stand upon your guard
lest they should devour you; for they spontaneously give you that which is your own.
They are not grasping, and trying to get the lion's share; but would do by their
neighbors as they would do by themselves.
It is easy to get along with tender-hearted people, in all the concerns of life.
They are candid, unselfish, good neighbors, kind friends, generous and loving in
all the relation of life.
5. There is something very beautiful in tender-heartedness.
Indeed, it is often very affecting to see the beauty of a tender-hearted mind.
To see its simplicity, its unaffected sincerity, its self-sacrifice, its pains-taking
for the food of others, its care not to injure others, its fear of prejudice -- and
indeed all the manifestations of such a mind are so symmetrical, so beautiful, so
Christ-like -- it is a luxury to live and move in the midst of such minds.
6. How beautiful will heaven be, where all hearts are tender; and God's heart the
most tender of all.
There is no hard place in God's heart; no hard heart in heaven; no blind, selfish
mind; no censorious, cruel, unfeeling soul there; but all is perfect tenderness,
and on God's part infinite tenderness.
7. If often requires great nerve to probe and search a tender heart. It sometimes
happens that a mind that has become tender-hearted, has forgotten some past wrong.
Its attention needs to be called to something it has not considered. In this state
the soul will be aware that there is something that binds here and there; and that
the mind, though tender, has not yet full liberty. The spirit of prayer does not
flow spontaneously; there is something that binds the feelings, something that checks
the power of faith.
In such cases the heart needs searching; the wedges that bind, need to be sought
out; the error detected. But to do this, as I said, requires nerve, and is often
a painful operation to the one who is called to this duty.
I must say, that in my own experience, I have often undergone exquisite suffering
from having such a work to do.
It has been sometimes with the utmost difficulty that I could make up my mind to
use the probe thoroughly; and when I could see what needed to be said, it seemed
as if I could scarcely say it. But yet such a labor always pays. When the work is
done, the mind is healed; and you will surely say that the pain could be well-afforded.
8. Tenderness of heart is always essential to peace of mind and joy in God. And where
the heart is really tender, and it has been thoroughly searched and emptied, its
peace will be like a river, and its joy purely spontaneous.
Lastly. Let no one stop short of a thoroughly tender heart. When the members of a
church are tender-hearted, it is easy to settle all difficulties.
The brethren are then disposed, each one, to blame himself; and to go as far as he
ought in justifying others.
All are ready to forgive; and there is no difficulty that cannot be well and easily
settled. I have often seen brethren in a state of controversy in which I could see
that the whole difficulty with them was the hardness of their hearts. They were blind,
and for the time being each thought the other to be the most in fault. But as soon
as their hearts are tender, this state of things is reversed. Each one is ready to
blame himself, and difficulties will soon be adjusted. Brethren in such cases will
not rest nor sleep, if they can avoid it, till they have confessed to each other,
and prayed with each other, and restored each other to confidence.
Neighborhood broils will cease, family broils will cease, church broils will cease,
as soon as the hearts of the parties are tender. Church-members will cease to oppose
their ministers, and ministers cease to think hard of their people, when there is
mutual tenderness of heart. Then there will be no controversy which shall be greatest;
but members will vie with each other to get the lowest seat, each one feeling, the
lowest seat belongs to me.
GLOSSARY
of easily misunderstood terms as defined by Mr. Finney himself.
Compiled by Katie Stewart
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